Publishing Fierce Solidarity has brought a whole lot more storytelling into my life. I'm hearing many stories, and this I expected. Your stories are always safe with me, and they are always welcome. Story keeping is sacred work.
All of this story keeping and the work that is rolling out from letting Fierce go prompts a lot of thought. I've heard so much from the generation of women before mine. They're having strong responses to this book, and their responses are helping me see more clearly what our generation inherited from them.
I'm also hearing a lot of, "What about the guys?" This is where my heart starts to clutch. This is where my experience gets me nowhere. This and many other limitations surrounding what I can do with Fierce is what is sending me back to school. . .again. But before that and in the midst of that, there is still knowledge to be mined for. Stories to tell. Wisdom to dance around and draw out.
So, I'm going to use this space to do just that. My most fundamental belief is we can do better. We can do better than dysfunction. We can do better than judgement and hate and fear. We can do better. Light years better. We are made for light years better.
Doing the better thing so often feels like standing alone, but that's an illusion. We're only alone when we scatter out of fear. That's why the Solidarity element is so important. For many of us, solidarity is much more difficult than fierceness. I can do fierce till the cows come home.
Stand alone? Oh, yeah. Watch me. Stand together? Where's the barf bag?
Hello social anxiety, old buddy, old pal.
Solidarity is my challenge. Showing up. Staying present. Listening and holding your story is easy. Bringing my fierceness and sitting it next to your fierceness? That's a work in progress.
Mantra for sanity:: Practice makes functional.